Some people just love it. They live their lives on gossips. They love to hear/ see people’s life get into dramatic situations, their lives get into a mess. People love other people’s bad luck.
Some people like bitching about other people for no apparent reason. Even when something good happens. When something good happens, then there must be some sly reason behind it. If something good happens then, the gossiper has something even better! “If I was like this, I would be able to do that too” “If I was not like this, I pun bole buat macam tuh jugak”
And oh, if you buy something that appears better than them, then oh….. always have something bad to say, or simply, its not a big deal really. But when that person buys something that appears to be of a big thing, this person can’t stop talking about it, and would keep going on and on and on and we are expected to listen.
If they have a problem, then u r expected to understand. If you have a problem, it becomes a major gossip. You are always the villain, even if you are the victim. You would be the one who has to “understand that it is all a misunderstanding” F***K YOU.
These people were friends of mine. I suddenly realize that friends do not do these things (yes smack me on the head and call me and idiot).
I have now discarded people like these from my life and you know what, I feel free.
I tell you why I feel free.
I don’t have to be conscious of what I think. What say or I think is only and opinion and for f***k sakes is NOT gospel truth neither is it carved in stone. I don’t have to be conscious of what I buy. I love stuff from flea markets and occasionally I treat myself to expensive things. So be it. I don’t like to be judged just because of my choice of shopping locations. I love my froggie. I don’t have any hidden agendas as to why I buy it or own it. I just love it. So save your comments or judgements.
I feel free because I can do whatever I want and don’t have to be worried about being judged.
Malaysians who live abroad here this. People here love to judge you for everything you do. Oh, your life is at the mercy of other people. You’d find yourself being a hypocrite just because you thought you could dodge judgements and remarks from people. Your life is a soap opera to other people. They are just Waiting for bad things to happen to you just so they get to gossip about you.
I wish I never came home.
I remember coming home for holidays over the summer and felt incredibly stressed. I could not figure out what it was. When I go back abroad, the stress just goes away!
I realize now, its social pressure. Yes, here, there is SO MUCH social pressure.
I wish I never came home.
I bet this post is going to be a MAJOR GOSSIP title soon amongst SOME people.


10 comments:
HI Lin,
Hmmm, I know what you mean about the way people behave in Malaysia. The competitive nonsence and weird on-uppance (I can do better than you etc) which go on there.
I don't understand why but I think it could be something to do with rapid growth from a country which was quite modest in its economical status to an up-and-coming booming nation, the wealth, exposure etc have taken a leap in comparison to the mental and emotional aspects of the society. So you have people who are too busy and consumed by jealousy and competitiveness.
Plus, they love to "mengumpat" something I have noticed (I too get rimas when I am in Malaysia). They always want to make a comment about something you do, wear, say, look, live etc.
And they do it behind your back.
Small things please small minds. That is what I always tell myself.
Hugs and stay the way you are. Don't bother with them as you know they'll never stop/change.
Hugs, N
ayoyo...
i used to feel that way a few months ago. But now I just hang around my close friends and just ignore the rest. Malaysia starting to be fun.
Nina: I agree with you on all counts! Well said. Yes I think rapid socio economic developments has something to do with it. Everyone wants to be better than everyone else. And yessss.... people LOVE to comment and judge everything you wear, say, do, behave.... tiring I tell you. I have people who scan me from top to toe. DAm it! Leave me alone. Sometimes I like to be a slob, sometimes I like to look pretty.... thats up to me!
Thanks for your comments Nina
city: you can say that again.I did not have time to "release" it to you at our "chamber" hehe.... will do so soon.
Shell:Good for you! At least u realise it early. Me, I'm the kind of idiot that let people take advantage of me before I even realise the hidden intent. I let people walk over me. I am not assertive enough to tell them off. Now I know... I avoid them completely. Its a black or white option, I know. But heck... I am happier this way.
hiya.. am leaving for china this sunday la bebs.. will be back next saturday.. stress stress.. got some b******g to do as well.. sigh...
By doing this site aren't you being a MALAYSIAN!dok cakap pasal org lain, cakap tak serupa bikin. cakap pasal org u pun sama. U dont know a thing about being a MALAYSIAN. We care about our own kind not like u. Maybe u need to go back where u came from. Who the F@#k are u anyway...duuh!!
hahaha! Anonymous..... I keep getting wierd comments from an anonymous. Somehow, I think I've hit a sore spot there. But funny thing is... this anonymous person seem to be very worked up about posts in this blog.
Now what did I say about "opinions being not gospel truth"
Anonymous.... u r missing the whole point of the post and taking it personally.
I've been reading your blog on a regular basis here and there're a few things that struck me about you and the things you share here. However, I would only want to mention one.
You strike me as a very modern independent Malaysian woman. You seem to know what you want, how you want it. Quite a go-getter. Which is good, as long as you don't step on others to get to the top.
Every country will have its own socio-pattern. Malaysia, Malaysians happen to be as such. And if you notice, it is a very ASIAN thing. You will find similar attitudes in most Asian countries because that is how most Asians express concern and send out the message of solidarity. Perhaps you are being very harsh to your own people.
Because from what I gather, according to you, Malaysians are a nosy, hypocritical, narrow minded, back-stabbing bunch of people.
--T.T.
P.S : Oh...and I'm not THAT anonymous (the one that sounded angry), I'm someone else.
Well anonymous the 2nd. Thank you for your comments. Yes, it is a very harsh and straight forward post. And yes it is a very Asian thing. I would most definitely agree. And yes there was a generalisation on Malaysians which is not true. And most definitely not fair. But in my haste and writing in frustrations, I generalised.
Let me begin by stating that the people concerned, in my writting, are...of a certain bunch of people are as you listed on the last line of your comments. Sad... but true. I should have stated so earlier.. that is, it addresses a certain group of people, I know.
But I am telling you, its toxic.
But then again, its nobody else's problem.
If you are a blogger, no need to be anonymous, no?
guys and gurls, if u dont like it, dont read it.. blogs are one of the channels we vent out and thus we will.. especially those mind-blowing-i-have-to-scream-NOW moments and we dont have our smoking buddy with us.. mebe u'd understand but mebe u wont.. just leave it at that.. it's the writer's prerogative, no need to get nasty.. well, unless the beruk really termakan the chilli..
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